the best poem on self love: ‘you are who you’ve been looking for’ by adam roa

self love is first love. the best poem on self love - you are who you've been looking for by adam roa
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i came across this poem on youtube and it is definitely THE BEST words i’ve heard on self love. i invite you to view the video for yourself (link below).

ps i’m also sharing the transcription of the video underneath just in case you’d like to read 🙂

You Are Who You’ve Been Looking For by Adam Roa

transcription of ‘you are who you’ve been looking for’ by adam roa — the best poem on self love!!

i learned something that was really impactful for me which is that "your capacity to love others is limited only by your capacity to love yourself." and that's what inspired this piece of poetry, which i call, 'you are who you've been looking for"


you are who you've been looking for. 
so stop looking for more unless you are looking in the mirror because it is about time for you to see clearly that: you are who you've been looking for. 

and that empty feeling you got, 
that hole in your chest 
you only got that feeling because you think you are not blessed with everything you need. 

you see we live in a consumerist society 
which means they need you to buy stuff 
and the easiest way to sell it is to tell you 'you are not enough'. 

buy this car, you will get girls. 
buy the bra, you will get guys. 
and we are seeing is so much that we start believing these lies. 

but the truth is: 
the make up they are selling to make you feel prettier is the same make-up you buy to stop feeling shittier about this lie they keep telling you that 'you are not enough'. 

and what about the movies we watch or the shows on tv
the more i watch the more i see 'i need you to complete me'. 

and yes, love is the answer, 
love is the key 
but if you can't love yourself how could you ever love me. 

and loving yourself what does that even mean like massages and selfies and that sort of thing? 

because the more i think about it the more it feels weird, 
i've always been taught that self-love was something to be feared. 

i've been taught that arrogance is bad and vanity, it's not good. 
and even my bracelets are telling me to act how jesus would. 
so what should i do? 
how should i act? 
i am supposed to love myself but how do i even do that? 

well, i got a trick that i pick up from a friend. 
who noticed that i was quick to defend her when she would say something negative about herself. 
she would say 'i am so dumb' and i would say 'you are so brilliant' 
she would say 'i am so weak' and i would say 'you are so resilient' 
and when she said 'i feel ugly' and i said 'you look beautiful', 
she asked me why i was so dutiful filling up her cup constantly and yet treating my own cup so irresponsibly. 

because when i looked in the mirror my voice was quite clear “you are ugly, you are too thin, your hairlines receding, you got a pimple on your chin” 

and that was when she gave me a piece of advice that changed my life: 
she gave me a hug and she said 'treat yourself like someone you loved' 
treat yourself like someone you loved. 

now, i've been standing but i needed to be sitting because i couldn't believe that i had been letting myself keep forgetting that i was who i've been looking for. 
and deep in my core i knew it was time to stop looking for more until i could look through all my fear and look into a mirror and see clearly that the man looking back at me was the only one who can make me happy, and i am already enough. 

and i am not any more special or unique than you that is why i am here to speak to you 'you are already enough'. 

and when you start to see that you will start to be that. 
your world will get brighter, 
your load will get lighter 
and you can see that with life you can be a lover and not a fighter. 
and that life... you deserve it. 
because you are worth it. 

and there is no point in letting yourself keep forgetting because no matter what you say or do: 'you are perfect'. 

and so today i hope i leave you with a direction correction away from the flaws you see in our reflection. 
they aren't flaws to me they are simply protection against all the doubts you have of your perfection. 

so start today, take a good long look in the mirror and say 'i am who i've been looking for'

recommended read: words of wisdom on self love

aren’t these words just amazing? the line that hit me the most was — “treat yourself like someone you loved”, wow! #andnothingwasthesame

what do you think of the poem?

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